Archive for August, 2011

The irrelevance of ‘I want’

Tuesday, August 30th, 2011

I had the privilege of seeing Glenn Singleman and Heather Swan present recently at a Microsoft conference on the Gold Coast. Glenn has been a long time business success story and extreme fitness freak, while his wife had been less fitness focused but equally successfully in business. Heather tells a story of how a heated conversation between herself and husband Glenn resulted in Heather becoming a world record holder. Glenn, always challenging the standard, was preaching about changing the way we think and how doing so can give us the chance to achieve greatness. Heather had had it with Glenn’s righteousness and challenged him to apply this wonderful theory to his completely unmoved wife.

Twelve months later, Heather had gone from an overweight 40 year old corporate mum, into a world class extreme base-jumper. Six years later she base-jumped off Mt Meru, India (6672m), to set a new world record, breaking the previous record as held by Glenn, by around 700 metres.

Glenn stated that the most significant element of the training regime was to eliminate ‘I want’ from their vernacular. ‘I want’ was just noise.

His point was that ‘I want’ has no validity. We either will, or we won’t. ‘Wanting’ is crossing fingers hoping that a miracle falls into our lap – it is ineffective, and lazy.

Heather rubbed out ‘I want’ from her conversations.

She then jumped off a six and a half thousand metre cliff to set a new world record and turn the rock-climbing/base-jumping/skydiving world on its head.

No half measures

Monday, August 22nd, 2011

A colleague of mine recently sat an interview for a role with a new company. It offered promising career opportunities as well as an increase in income.  He was unsuccessful but only moderately disappointed.

Him: “It’s moderately disappointing. But there would have been some pretty strong candidates I’d say” (he didn’t know for sure).

Me: “What did you wear?”

Him: “Just my suit, tie, work shoes – the usual thing.”

Me: “Did you buy a new suit?”

Him: “No – just wore the one I usually wear”.

Me: “Did you wear a watch?”

Him: “No.”

Me: “What colour socks did you wear?”

Him: “I don’t remember.”

Me: “Did you take a pen and a nice folder”.

Him: “I took a notepad and pen”.

Me: “What kind of pen was it?”

Him: “I don’t know, one from [four star hotel] I think.”

Me: “Did the notepad have a cover?”

Him: “Why are you asking so many damn questions?”

Me: “Sorry, just making small talk.”

Me: “How big of a deal was this opportunity?”

Him: “It would have been pretty great.”

Me: “Could you have done a good job if you had have got it?”

Him: “Oh yeah, no problems there.”

Me: “So you attended an interview for a job that you could have nailed and would have offered you a great opportunity, you wore a five year old suit, scuffed shoes, and came equipped with a promotional click pen, and missed out on the job?”

Me: “Feel like a beer?”

Him: “Sure.”

So we had beers.

Opportunities fall into two categories: Want; or Not. If it’s want, then give the decision maker no reason to deny you. If it’s not, save your time and play Nintendo.

If you aren’t prepared to invest in yourself, why should anyone else?